TIME FOR GOD

What you are about to read are the index cards taped up in my daughters room around her mirror. I wrote these out for her a while ago. I am being honest when I admit to you that I don't think she reads them "my way", but I'm sure she reads them or has read them at some point and time. I want to share these with you because someone asked me "how do I pray and read my Bible". Well this is how I pray and as far as reading my Bible, well I started way back when in Proverbs with the day of the week being the chapter I read in. (in the car pool line,quick read, bed time,with the kids).She's new to relationships and "religion", so I thought it was important to familiarize her with who she is following. Well this is the best answer for her question that I could come up with knowing she was a new christian and not overwhelming her ( i tend to do that to some folks when i get excited) .Sometimes we just need it written down and so that's what I did for Stephanie. I have been reading over these index cards as I post them and I will admit my fault in not reading my taped up index cards like I should. If you have been over to our little home , you have seen, possibly read the index cards taped up everywhere . To some it may seem tacky , but this is how I learn...REPETITION!!!!..My niece lived in a troubled home and she would come home with us from monday thru saturday a lot of times just because she said she felt love at our house and not chaos.Well I wanted to tell her there was chaos she was to oblivious to hear,see or feel it. We don't have a perfect homelife but ya know when she told us that we knew we were doing something right according to Gods will for our life.
SUNDAY
Lord create in me the willingness to obey you. Create in me a pure heart to follow you.Renew me with your spirit.Sincerity and truth are what you desire. Help me radiate what is pleasing to you.Be merciful to me. How wonderful are the things you do and I put my hope in you.
MONDAY
Listen to my words oh Lord. If there is anything unpleasing in me I pray you snatch it out like you snatched Satan from heaven. I come to you lord for protection,never let me be defeated. I trust in you and I will be glad and rejoice in you all my days. Find me faithful in your eyes as I desperately try to serve you.
TUESDAY
Teach me lord what you want me to do and I will obey you faithfully.Teach me to serve you with complete devotion. I am helpless and weak without you. Guide me in the way I should go.Listen to my words oh lord. Find me faithful to you as I serve you.
WEDNESDAY
I praise you lord because you have saved me. I place myself in your care.Shelter me from danger. Save me from those who do me wrong. I call to you lord,don't let me be of the disgraced but those who persecute me be disgraced instead. I trust in your holy name. I give thanks to you and I know your word is true.
THURSDAY
Oh lord i confess my sins to you (name your sins).Teach me to honor you. I want a long life of happiness.Keep me from doing things that are not pleasing to you.May your constant love be with me always as I learn what is meant by serving you W-HOLY.
FRIDAY
I confess my sins to you, I will not hide my wrongdoings from you (name your sins).Fight those who fight against me. There is none like you. I will be glad and happy because you saved me. Your righteousness towers over me like mountains. How precious is your constant love for me. Find favor with me as I strive to be more and more like you.
SATURDAY
Lord guide me in the way I should go. I know you protect those who are pleasing to you. You are my shelter and strength. You are glorious and majestic.You are love. You love what is right and hate what is wrong. I pray thru my actions your fame will stay alive forever. Keep my steps safe as I continue my journey to be more pleasing to you.

THANKS FOR READING!!!

DIVORCE

Jesus teaches about DIVORCE

 Matthew 19:1-12

When Jesus finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went to the territory of Judea on the other side of the Jordan River. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. Some Pharisees came to him and tried to trap him by asking, "Does our law allow a man to divorce his wife for whatever reason he wishes?"Jesus answered, "Haven't you read the scripture that says that in the beginning the Creator made people male and female? And God said,'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, and the two will become one.'So they are no longer two, but one. Man must not seperate, then, what God has joined together. The Pharisees asked him,"Why, then, did Moses give the law for a man to hand his wife a divorce notice and send her away?" Jesus answered , "Moses gave you permission to divorce your wives because you are so hard to teach. But it was not like that at the time of creation. I tell you , then,that any man who divorces his wife for any cause other than her unfaithfulness,commits adultery if he marries some other woman."His disciples said to him,"If this is how it is between a man and his wife,it is better not to marry." Jesus answered ,"This teaching does not apply to everyone,but only to those whom God has given it. For there are different reasons why men cannot marry: some, because they were born that way;others , because men made them that way; and others do not marry for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven. Let him who cannot accept this teaching do so."   

Romans 7:2-3

A married woman,for example, is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives;but if he dies,then she is free from the law that bound her to him.So then if she lives with another man while her husband is still alive she will be called an adulteress ; but if her husband dies,she is legally a free woman and does not commit adultery if she marries another man.

1Peter 3:1-7 

In the same way wives must submit yourselves to your husbands,so that any of them do not believe Gods word, your conduct will win them over to believe.It will not be necessary for you to speak a word,because they will see how pure and reverent your conduct is. You should not use outward ways to make yourselves beautiful,such as the way you fix your hair,or the jewelry you put on,or the dresses you wear. Instead your beauty should consist of your true inner self,the ageless beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,which is one of the greatest values in Gods sight. For the devout women of the past who placed their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful by submitting themselves to their husbands. Sarah was like that; she obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are now her daughters if you do good and are not afraid of anything.In the same way your husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are the weaker sex. Treat them with respect,because they  also will receive ,together with you,Gods gift of good life.Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.

Oh the Bible is slam full of what we are supposed to do,say and behave as wives. Don't neglect your husband of sex. Don't put him down. Don't say hurtful things to him or about him. Are you the one that willingly takes up Jesus' cross of self denial?.Luke 9:23 So many women these days play emotional games to keep their husband,they lie,deceive and pretend. I know a lady that has chosen 3 men to marry in a 13 yr span , like buying a pair of shoes. One lady was having a "internet affair" with the husbands friend. One lady is just going thru the marriage lonely. The husband works all the time. Marriages are in trouble these days. I have written a blog in this manner not to long ago and it seems like since that blog I have had a desire to just let women know that this is what the Bible says and I do not apologize for what Gods word says. How do we expect our daughters to know love if we cannot love their daddy?How will our sons know how to treat that special girl. .If your husband is abusive to you or the kids in anyway then simply remove yourself from that situation and give him over to God.  My daughter sees me and hears me uplift her daddy on a daily basis. I look forward to see who God has prepared for her. I know some may have a marriage based on "well I got pregnant so this was the right thing to do". What a lie, the right thing to do is keep your pants on until marriage. I know it may be too late for some of you, but ask yourself "Can you live without answers  just by knowing God is with you?". My heart is burdened for so many women who are not happy in their marriage. Take this with you daily,post it up around somewhere to read it every day. It is this, WE MUST NEVER BE AFRAID OF ADMITTING THAT WHAT WE SEE AROUND US DOESN'T MATCH UP WITH WHAT WE KNOW ABOUT THE CHARACTER OF GOD. We don't "purchase" a husband. If your marriage falls apart ,just don't be in such a hurry to get back on the saddle and ride again. Take some time and love on your kids,get involved in something to help you thru your hurt. 

With Love, Judy  

 

ALMOST TIME

Almost time to say good bye to the year 2008..WOW!!!..Lord, what do you have prepared for me in the year to come? Help me accept the things I can not change and give me wisdom when accepting things I can not change.Help me remember life is a matter of balance when things seem out of control.

Christmas 2008

Well almost Christmas Day. Actually in about 15 minutes. Yes I am up late.Allergy meds are keeping me awake. I want to share with you 10 things i am truly grateful for in the yr 2008..
So what about this Christmas is different from others. Well I'll give you 10 things,here goes..

1- Still on a tight budget, but surviving- PRAISE GOD..kc lost yet another job this summer (economy cut backs)..the more we lose the more we gain..i have started working (in august), substitute teacher..LOVE IT!!..many have helped thru gifts of food,borrowing a car,money and prayer..thank you lord for them all..we are able to buy our kids Christmas presents this year and it feels good..they are not getting alot but they are getting enough..my kids have said that all they ever want for their birthdays' or Christmas' is for us to remain a family..i love my kids..

2-Grand daddy still waiting for Chris to come home (and he will - in about 13 years)..i miss Chris..my kids are still missing Chris . we often wonder when will they realize that they are not the only ones that had their life turned upside down..this has been a difficult year for me ,kc,stef and Nicholas for practicing -forgiveness-..we have to forgive him,her and extended family.BUT god's grace is sufficient enough .. when we can't look at them anymore and when we don't want to hear the name chris anymore , he opens our eyes and lifts our heads and reminds us all 4 that he is suffering with us and that he is the mighty mender of relationships.AND he is in the process of mending..

3-missing my mother in laws cooking..BUT kc is keepin' it real..he can take corn,chicken and cheese and make a master peice..he's the bomb and he has the apron to prove it..lol..

4-been to just as many funerals as weddings..what's up with that!!!..SMILE ONE MONTH,CRY THE NEXT..

5-no traffic tickets this year!!PRAISE GOD...oh wait a minute, yes i did get one- expired inspection..oh well can't have it all...but to give a honest nuMber 5, i have stopped emailing 3 people who stress me out..what a freeing feeling..TRY IT...i decide it was good for me not to let these 3 ladies suffocate my growth and i released them from "my contacts"..one was added back a month ago but god said it was time, even tho i DID NOT WANT IT TO BE SO ,HE SPOKE !!!..I LISTENED!!!

6-our daughter has had a boyfriend since February and we have had to adjust to the change, and to be honest it's not that bad..we love her and trust her and she is doing well and she keeps the communication line wide open..Thank you lord..

7-we have a new (USED , BUT NEW TO US) car, couldn't afford the other one AND this one doesn't have a payment..

8-built a ramp for the house so Jamie can visit..yay..thanks yogi!!!
9-have 2 of the best pets ever..ruby(chi wa wa-spelling is wrong but you know what i'm trying to say) and tonka (st bernard/akita mix)
10-well to sum up this year i have to say it has been a trying one and one of uncertainty ,one of great patience and obedience that not only i had to practice but my husband and children had to practice as well. it was one of great emotional stress and heartache for my kids that i could not FIX..I am hopeful God is pleased with my behavior this year. without him as my foundation i would have ,could have, should have ....

MANY TIMES I SAW ONE SET OF FOOTPRINTS AND I ASKED YOU WHY... AND YOU SAID BECAUSE I WAS CARRYING YOU..

Be patient , Win control over yourself!!!

Be patient,Win control over yoursel.Yes, well easier said than done huh? This I know first hand. I have for some years been feeling so BLAH, like something was missing. Last night was the first night in many years that the light bulb flickered on. As I was sitting home , alone (rarely heard of ) , I realized "I'M GONNA BE OK". I've been reading Proverbs this week. WOW, what a blessing. I see myself in so much of the Proverbs. As I read thru, this time with an open mind , I realize that I am in need of repair. Not my finances,not my marriage , not realtionships, BUT ME!!.Let me explain in my language refered to as the ever more popular "FRANKLINESE", if you aint got no $ won't be no troubles. Just threw that in here for a good laugh.The slack economy is hitting some of our friends now and I am seeing for the first time, wow-they do have flaws. You know how some put up the act!!Yea, we have Friends and family like that and I am sure you do too. Proverbs 17:17 sums up our role as a Friend- simply written-Friends always show their love . What are brothers (body of a Christ) for if not to share trouble. KEY PHRASE- SHARE TROUBLE. I am not saying take on their debt, just love them and help them out. Situations have a season. Some last longer than others, but that's ok. I am so thankful for the ones who have helped me and KC along the way . I dare not say we are out of the woods but I feel the warmth form the light at the end of the tunnel, if that makes sense. We have been judged harshly ,some have shared their opinions openly and without any common sense and some have been down right mean and judgmental, BUT my hope was for KC and I to remain faithful and God .I rest in Proverbs 17:5 If you mock those less fortunate you insult the GOD who made them. I believe God may have found favor with us in this season of our lives because we are both content now, I feel it. We have accepted the season we are in.We don't have the things , money and tangibles that most everyone has , heck even the food that some have in their pantry ,but -but -but, I have come to my senses and seen that we have a strong foundation and our marriage is good and our kids are a blessing and fun to raise.

And speaking of marriage,over the past years I have heard many married women complain about their husbands, they deceive their husbands,keep secrets, manipulate, they use sex to get what they want with their husbands ,trick their husbands ,lie to their husbands,use their kids against their husband and say hurtful things to and about their husbands . As far as their kids I have seen women use their kids as trophies to show the "ones back home" what THEY have done. Even Face book has been used as a tool to communicate with "their crush" or old classmates for flirting purposes. Face book has also been used as a tool to be boastful about "see what I have". Oh be careful with all communications, you can and will be found out!! That's all I'll say about that. I have seen many women and children hurt by abuse in their families over the years and nobody deserves any form of abuse, I know first hand, I have had it all in my life and it's no walk in the park. Ladies don't push your husbands!! Communicate!! Some men are just down right sick and need help , but you ladies that are holding back,pretending,playing games and being deceitful should be ashamed of yourself. I have seen many women pretend to be happy over the years and I have seen many men try so hard to wow their wife to end up being rejected. I say all this to say that I am truly thankful for my relationship with my husband and my kids. I am also very thankful that these ladies have all shown up in my life. Some have faith in God and listening to them talk has been so uplifting, some have Sunday morning faith and we all know how far that will get you and some have faith in them self. Enough about that cause as some of you read you are already planning an attack on what I've written.

I go back to my first blog PROVERBS WANNA BE...God please continue to use me as the vessel you created me to be and grow me in your word and restore realtionships .I pray I stay in check and don't become self-centered. For the ones reading this , just know that I am not at all praising JUDY . God started off with a whispered warning in my ear, then HE firmly spoke to me,then HE gave me another chance and I shut HIM out ,then I COULDN'T HEAR HIM SPEAK TO ME . Don't get caught up in "your" ministry ,"your "kids,"your" life,"your" vanity,"your" complaints , "your" sorrows because they are not yours , they are all HIS .At any given time any of these things or people can be taken away from you .

Yes, this has been a pretty random blog entry but hey that's who I am!! I am uniquely and wonderfully made in HIS image.I do hope you have enjoyed reading more about me and my thoughts. It is hard to open up to a dark world "internet" and speak what's on my mind but I am encouraged be God's word and my time with HIM alone is precious to me so I fear only Him and pray the rest works out for the good I intend. Thanks..

ABOUT MY KC

today is my birthday and i am waiting for my husband to get home so we can start my date..i just want to write a little snipit on my sweet husband , KC..wow, where do I start..Sometimes I wish I could be like him in a sense of discernment. There are so many people he doesn't understand and it's hard for him to like those people and yet those people have no clue. I can honestly say he loves them, but doesn't like them.. What a quality to posses.. I believe him when he says that outside of his realtionship with Christ, we are his world. The kids adore him and they talk to him about so many random things. He keeps a grip on it too, especially when our teenager talks about her boyfriend.AARRGGHH...He works 2 jobs to keep us fed and the bills paid . We never get ahead, just make it. That bothers him but we are playing the cards dealt to us..Never in 16 years has he put his foot down and demanded I get a job, I have had plenty but he has always wanted me to BE AVAILABLE for the kids while they are in school. I am now a substitute teacher and lovin' it by the way..My KC has such an amazing voice. What a talent he has been blessed with. . I could listen to him sing all day..He can fix anything , we don't have to call for a handy man and he is so stronglike a bull, but yet gentle as a teddy bear. He is definitely my hero.This has been a random blog today, BUT SOMETIMES A GIRL JUST NEEDS TO WRITE ABOUT HER HERO..

POWER IN WORDS

THERE IS GREAT POWER IN WORDS WE SPEAK. NO NEWS TO US RIGHT? THE PEOPLE WE IMPACT (for good or bad).. TODAY I HAVE MADE MYSELF A PROMISE TO PURPOSELY PUT FORTH THE EFFORT IN USING ALL MY WORDS TO SPEAK LIFE ,HOPE AND LIGHT INTO OTHERS AS THE HOLY SPIRIT GUIDES ME . OUR WORDS ARE A GIFT FROM GOD. HE HAS ENTRUSTED US WITH WORDS. WORDS ARE THE MOST POWERFUL FORCES IN THE UNIVERSE & AMAZINGLY ENOUGH GOD HAS ENTRUSTED THEM TO YOU & ME. HOW WELL WILL WE USE THIS POWERFUL GIFT FROM GOD? WILL THEY BE USED TO ENCOURAGE THE DISCOURAGED? WILL THEY BRING LIGHT TO DARKNESS?
LORD, HELP ME USE MY WORDS TO BLESS AND HELP, NOT CURSE, TO BUILD UP, NOT TEAR DOWN, TO HEAL ,NOT TO HURT. BY THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT, MAY THE WORDS OF MY MOUTH BE PLEASING TO YOUR EAR AND BEAUTIFUL TO YOUR SIGHT.LET MY HEARTS DESIRE FOR OTHERS BE THE SAME DESIRE AS YOURS. HELP ME LORD AS I CONTINUE TO TRY AND LOVE ME WHEN I FAIL .

FOR THOSE WHO ARE UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL, RIGHT OUT OF THE SHOOT

SSSHH..BE QUIET,BE STILL..FEEL THAT???
THE QUIET CONFIDENCE THAT GOD IS IN CONTROL IS A MARK OF MATURITY.QUIETLY BREATH THE CALMNESS AND PEACEFULNESS OF HIS SOVEREIGNTY INTO YOUR BEING. FEELS REFRESHING DOESN'T IT?.THIS IS WHAT I DO A COUPLE OF TIMES DURING THE DAY .THE NEWNESS OF SCHOOL STARTING,SERVING IN A MINISTRY THAT I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD,WAITING EVER SO PATIENTLY FOR KC TO HAVE ONLY ONE JOB, DAUGHTER "GOING OUT" WITH SOMEONE SHE VIEWS AS "THE ONE", RECENTLY LEARNING THAT A DEAR SWEET ENCOURAGER HAS GONE TO BE WITH THE LORD, STILL PRACTICING THE "LOVE THEM WHERE THEY ARE" BLOG..WOW , I JUST TAKE INTO MY VERY BEING A BREATH OF HIS LOVE , FORGIVENESS, MERCY AND GRACE TO CARRY ME ON THRU THE DAY AND I AM SO REJUVENATED. TIMES OF FEELING SO FRUSTRATED WITH OTHERS AND "THEIR OBVIOUS FLAWS" IS NOT AS HARD FOR ME TO ACCEPT NOW-A-DAYS. I JUST TRY TO SEE THEM AS CHRIST SEES THEM. I KNOW HE GREW ANGRY, BUT IT WAS A RIGHTEOUS ANGER. WAS MINE, I ASKED MYSELF!!!????..WELL PROBABLY NOT,BUT I HAVE REALIZED THAT AS I LIVE AND ACCUMULATE MORE "HATS TO WEAR" I AM STILL THAT SAME OUTSPOKEN PERSON WITH A LOT TO SAY BUT THERE IS A GREATER EFFORT ON MY PART TO LOVE OTHERS IN CHRIST LIKENESS. I LOVE LIVING AND I LOVE LIFE AND YES I HAVE BEEN ATTACKED BECAUSE I AM SO -UP CLOSE AND PERSONAL- & -MISUNDERSTOOD--. I HAVE BEEN DEPRESSED AND DISCOURAGED QUITE A BIT BY OTHERS. GETTING TO KNOW PEOPLE SEEMS TO HAVE A DEEPER DIRECTION THAN JUST GETTING TO KNOW THEM.. MY POINT IS THIS, WHILE WEARING MANY HATS AS WE ALL DO,REMEMBER TO LOVE PEOPLE THAT COME ALONG UNDER THE BRIM OF THOSE HATS.. I STILL GET VERY EXCITED WHEN I MEET NEW PEOPLE.SO FOR ALL THOSE THAT ARE LIKE ME AND JUST CAN'T SEEM TO FORGET THE HURTFUL THINGS OTHERS SAY JUST KNOW GOD IS BIGGER THAN THEM ..I HEARD THIS SAYING A WHILE AGO AND I SHARE IT WITH OTHERS -DON'T TELL GOD HOW BIG YOUR PROBLEM IS, TELL YOUR PROBLEM HOW BIG YOUR GOD IS......